As I mentioned in Tuesday’s post, David and I celebrate our wedding anniversary in a way that is different from everyone else we know. It all started on our first anniversary. I was pregnant with our firstborn, due any day, so travel was out. I’m sure we had a nice dinner out to celebrate, but what was most memorable was that we spent the day hiking around the state park where we were married just a year before. The following year, we had lunch together (my first time without baby Liam, who had been a very demanding baby, but was almost a year old). Slowly, we began to realize that the nice meal together, while we still enjoy it (and try to fit it in every year), it wasn’t nearly as memorable as the adventures we took as a family. As I dug into what made our anniversary so meaningful, I concluded that, for me, it was important because it was the start of our family.
Let me rewind back to our wedding. We were the first in both of our families to get married, so all of our extended families made the trip to celebrate with us. I have a pretty big family, so it was really amazing and humbling to physically see all that love and support. We had a beautiful wedding on a misty morning in a state park, and, while there were the inevitable small hiccups of planning a large event, it all went smoothly and was lovely. The things that I remember most from the day, though, (besides how VERY excited I was to be marrying this wonderful man!) was that my family and dear friends worked so hard to make that day beautiful and wonderful. And that’s not something that I expected in all my studies of Martha Stewart Wedding Magazines. I had planned a picture perfect wedding, but all that really mattered was that I married my love and that our families and friends were there supporting us as a new family.
It’s really the same when I think about celebrating our marriage. When David and I have a nice meal together, it is refreshing to have that time alone and we never want it to end, but romance and friendship is not all that our marriage is about. We also became a family on the day we got married. Yes, there was romance and friendship, but even then, there was family all around us. It’s a day we want our kids to celebrate with us because they are a result of the vows we made that day.
So, we celebrate our wedding anniversary with our kids. Usually, it’s a day trip somewhere. We like to explore small towns and antique shops, so we bring the kids along on the treasure hunt and usually have a fun meal at some small diner we stumble upon. We talk about our wedding day and about how glad we are to have our kids. It’s always a great time.
This year, we decided to do something bigger because we had just hit a milestone in our business, and the kids have really been pitching in to help get to that goal. So, we booked a hotel with an indoor pool and spent a few days together, hanging out. We did a little exploring, but mostly just spent time playing together. It was just what we needed to recharge during this demanding season.
So, that’s how we celebrate our anniversary. It’s different, but we love it. What about you? Do you have any quirky traditions in your family that are very meaningful to you? I’d love to hear about them!